Category: Dating and Relationships
Just curious as to what you all think..is it wrong, I'm guilty of it. lol
If you care about your friends then you probably shouldn't date their ex's. If you don't wanna stay friend's with your ex's then you probably shouldn't date their friends. Generally it's straightforward.
mmhmm I guess your rite, was just curious cuz I know people who just don't care if their friends date their exes or not, but some who don't like that at all.
Well I have had a friend date my ex. It was weird but I finally grew in to the thought and they had become very good friends.
I had this happen, a friend is dating my ex wife. My friend and I have known each other for a long time. I was not upset because she was free, and actually we became better friends than lovers. could it be a situational type of decision?? she actually if it would bother me and I said as long as your treated well.
In college I dated my roommate's ex. Big mistake. My mild mannered, fun to be around roommate turned into a bitch and a stalker. I guess she wasn't through with him yet even though he was clearly through with her. But things worked out okay and they ended up getting back together , andI found someone better.
I think that question really depends on the people involved. As a general rule, I don't think it's wrong, but it is something you'll want to tread lightly about. And at the very least I'd give it time (as in don't go after said x right after the breakup. Give wounds time to heal among all parties and such.) But as I said , it very much depends on the people involved I think.
I agreI'm with Miah on this one.
Ok, I personally hate the idea of my friends and x's getting together and so on. I believe that when you are with someone you create a bond even if it does not last long. Friends if they were true would never attempt to take what you had and that is my opinion. Also though your x if you are friends should not steal away your new love interest and try to make it there's just to prove a point which I had happen to me a few months ago.
It sticky, but not wrong. If your friend is done then she/she is done. I'd simply ask the people in question what they think. Pleanty of people the date other wise if there is an issue. Some time is needed. I mean you'd not hook up with your friends GF/BF a minute after the brake up?
I've personally experienced this situation from both sides, and while it's painful I still don't think it's something that should be avoided. We're all looking for that 1 so-called special person for ourselves. what if we pass up the chance of being with that person to spare the feelings of our best friend? Sure we kept the friend, but we might potentially have missed our chance of that special life partner.
Be careful how you do it, know that people will get hurt, but there is a chance that in time the friendships can heal. in my case that happened both times, with the frend who dated my ex, and with my ex who's friend I dated. So, just be careful, but know they'd most likely do it to you in the quest for lifelong happiness.
well i don't think it should be a problem as long as you have spoken to your friend about it. i am dating my friend's x. after he was done with her she kept on talking about me to him. 2 years later we got together.
that is not all i have witnessed somthing that i call the switch. it's where friends swop pertners. for ex ample if A and B are together and C and D are together to swop there would be A and B get together and C and B get together. lets say it was a problem at start. now we are all closer than before. like they say you can't change the past.
I'mGoingThrueItRuightNow,AndItIsHeartBraking,UIIWantToChopTheGuysBallsOff,AndNeverSpeekToTheGirlAgain.TheGirlWasMyFriendAndTheGuysIsMyX,AndTheGirlWillNeverGainMyFriendshipBack,NorWillEitherOfThemEverGainMyRepsectBack...TheyBothSuck!!! ButThat'JustMe..
Neither are wrong as such, but could show either a lack of judgement or (self)-respect among your circle if not handled properly.
by the way, did someone steal your spacebar BLND Girl?
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Good to see some things never change. Like board topics! :-)
It is for the people who wish to be in a relationship with each other to decide whether they have a relationship, not friends, exes, or anybody else. I wouldn't allow anybody to negatively influence the direction of my lovelife without my prior consent.
agreed with Senior.
A true friend wants you to be happy, if this bond between boyfriends and girlfriends was so strong, it would not have been broken. Thus, I do not think it is wrong. Perhaps, from the point of few of someone who is insecure, it may seem a betrayal; but I really don't think it is.
I think that if a person makes you happy, and you make them happy, then date them. I don't believe that the opinions of others should influence your decision in the slightest, they are not dating ther person. If they don't want to date them, they can't blaim you for wanting to.
As for the friend who is the odd man out if you will, it is perfectly ok to give advice against going out; but to completely say it is wrong, is well wrong. You can tell your friend what they did that made you break up, and maybe they will listen, or maybe they won't. But essentially, it is not for the odd-man-out to decide, it is a personal choice between the two people who are dating.
And don't we all love long winded posts?
Is it wrong to date your friend's ex or vice versa? Yes. Does it mean that people still do it? Yes. Does it mean that I've done it and won't do it again? Yes. Last year, I dated a friend of mine's ex. We started going out five days after she broke up with him. He seriously needs to read these posts. He really should have waited. She flat out told him it was ok to date me, but when he screamed in happiness, she wasn't so thrilled. We went to great lenghts to keep our relationship a secret, which probably wasn't a very smart idea. Things went well between us for a while, then we broke up. I haven't spoke to him since the breakup. Supposedly, he's with someone else. I haven't spoken to her since before we broke up. She hasn't returned any of my phone calls, although she gave no indication of being mad at me when we talked. I still consider her a friend, though. Although it is ultimately wrong, it does feel good at the time, especially if u really like the person.